Lie to Me

"If someone cares enough about me to fake their orgasm, I'm OK with that."
Men that The Chemical Buddha knew spent their early sexual lives worrying if they were satisfying their partners. And then worked hard to figure out what it would take to make them happy in bed. It's well documented that TCB didn't share their concerns. He didn't wonder if his lover's orgasm was 'real' or not. There was so much more to worry about. Like his own orgasm. And when it came right down to it, if someone cared enough to not hurt his feelings by pretending they felt something (anything) then that to him was the sincerest from of love possible. Because only those that truly loved him would be concerned about his pleasure and his feelings.
Do you lie to avoid hurting people's feelings?
How do you feel when people are critical of you? Would you rather have the truth or feel good about yourself (assuming both aren't always possible)?

Honestly

“If you want to know what life is all about, ask a kid.”
Kids bring so much honesty to the table. They still haven’t figured out what is and is not socially acceptable to say to someone else. And their views of the world are pretty simple. However, it confused The Chemical Buddha when parents would tell their kids, "Honesty is the best policy," but then chastised them for giving someone their honest opinion like, "You’re ugly" or "You smell." It only served to remind TCB of one of his favorite Deep Thoughts with Jack Handy. To paraphrase, it went something like this: "The face of a child says so much. Particularly the mouth part of the face." There was a time that TCB liked the blunt directness children dished out. Until it started to hurt his feelings. So what if it was true, it still hurt. That’s why TCB preferred to talk with adults who were afraid to be direct.
Are you honest with yourself? What do you not admit to yourself?
Are you honest with others? What do you not tell other people?
How might being honest with yourself and others impact your life?

I Lie, Therefore I Am

“You can't spell beliefs without lies.”
One of the things The Chemical Buddha counted on was that people believed what they wanted to believe. Even if that included believing things that were later proven to be untrue they would still cling to their original belief. For example, when it was proven that the world was round, lots of people continued to believe it was flat, even though every piece of evidence proved them to be incorrect. And beliefs about oneself are particular prone to warped views. For example, The Chemical Buddha thought he was thin. Even though his clothes no longer fit, he insisted on wearing them. Even when he split the ass of his pants. TCB found it was sometimes more comfortable to believe the lies than accept the truth.
What lies are you choosing to believe about yourself and your world?
What would it take for your to see and accept and unflattering or inconvenient truth?

Wrong is the new Right

“Are you sorry? Or just sorry you got caught?”
Believe it or not, there was a time that The Chemical Buddha actually had a relationship (all be it short lived) with a woman who knew her shit. She asked The Chemical Buddha the above question after she caught him being used as a hobby horse by a bar fly he brought to her house while she was out. He did manage to mumble out a ‘sorry’ but in reality she was right. He was only sorry that his lies, half-truths and misdeeds were uncovered. In this moment he woke up to the fact that people only apologize when someone catches them and tells them what they're doing is ‘wrong.’ He believed one way to avoid this, was to change your definition of what's ‘wrong.’ Because if it feels right than how can it ever be wrong?
How often do you apologize for doing what you want to do?
What do think is ‘right’ that other people think is ‘wrong’?